My boyfriend’s mom has a gambling addiction. She always goes to the casino and gambles away her money. His dad too, but he hasn’t asked his son for any money. The first couple of times, it didn’t bother me when she asked and he gave in. Then he went and opened a bank account under his name, but his mom would be the only one using it. She needed another bank account because she was having a lot of money coming in, but she didn’t want the government to know cuz she’s bankrupt. She even wanted a 46″ flatscreen tv, and had him open up a credit card at sears and charge it to it, saying she would pay him back. She still hasn’t yet.
Recently, she went to the casino agian, and gambled away everything. She overwithdrew the bank account that was under my boyfriends name by $400 and she over withdrew her own bank account by $800. When she got home, she asked my boyfriend for more money again to cover everything. He said no at first because he needs to save up for school cuz he’s in college, and he doesn’t have $1200 to spare. Then she even asked him to ask me for money, but he said no to that too. She then tried to coax him into taking out more student loans so she can pay her debt.
After I heard that, I flat out told my boyfriend to say no, and to never give her money again. He already has enough problems to worry about financial wise because he’s paying for college by himself. I’ve already loaned him the $400 to cover his bank account over withdrawal by his mom, then told him to close it so she can’t do it to him again. Plus she still owes him $1700 from other gambling debts and the TV.
She has 5 other sons and 3 other daughters too! But they won’t give her money, but my boyfriend is the nicest of her children, so she goes to him to get money. I’m now trying to get him away from all this crap cuz I don’t think it’s right for a parent to use one of their kids like this, when he’s the only one in college. The others are married and have a stable job. But my bf has to pay his tuition and buy books! He’s a poor college student, so she has no right to ask for so much money from him and ruin his credit by making him open credit cards and over withdrawing a bank account under his name.
Do I seem like a controlling ***** when I told him to never give her money again? We’re planning on moving into an apartment together next year (That would be my sophomore year and his junior year in college.) and I want him to be somewhat financially stable. And I don’t want his credit to be ruined at such a large age. I also told him to get the $1700 back from his mom when he moves out, so that he has that money to help pay rent. And i’m not the only one telling him that he was stupid to loan her money and a bank account. His other siblings tell him that he shouldn’t give her anything because she’s just gonna ***** him up and it will feed her gambling habit.
