This might sound like a movie plot(or a book).. but here goes. just to clarify, I’m 22, and in college, this isn’t a high school drama. I know only mature people will take the time to read something this long, which are the type of answers I am hoping to get anyways =)
A little over a month ago, my girlfriend(now ex) invited me to go out with her and some of her classmates doing an project. I spent most of my time hanging out with another girl that came with them, because my GF wasn’t interested at all in their assignment. I thought she was cool, but didn’t really think anything else of it.
The following Monday at school, I was talking with some old friends that I ran into, and the girl happened to walk by. She invited me to hang out with her and some others on Thursday.
The next day, Tuesday… I had a major falling out with my girlfriend, which had been a long time coming.
Thursday came around and we hung out, nothing exciting. But then, Friday came, and I ran into her again at a campus activity. We spent the whole time there together, and found out that we were both going to the same event afterwords.
She didn’t have a ride so I offered her one. Just as we start to drive there, my ex calls in tears over our breakup. After we got there, she could obviously tell what had happened. We found a quiet place and sat around and talked about relationship problems, and I found out she was going through a very similar situation with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is studying abroad so they are in a long distance relationship.
We started talking and hanging out a lot after about a week, and I could tell that my feelings were developing as more than just friends. I knew that I had to tell her how I felt, before I got placed in that “friends” zone permanately. I knew it would be awkward, she still had a boyfriend… I wasn’t expecting a yes obviously… I just wanted her know how I felt.
She just said that it was a little awkward with how much we had talked about her situation, but nothing else changed. We still hung out and talked just the same as before. I noticed she did small things that might have been hinting she liked me, like resting her head on mine, etc… but never thought much of it.
Skip ahead to this Monday. It was a friend of her’s birthday… I had only met him 2-3 times. A small group of us went to a movie, then to eat… then we went our own ways. I had given her a ride again, so I was dropping her off.
She invited me in (it was like… 2am?) because she wanted to show me some pictures and such. After about an hour or so of looking at pictures and talking, she just laid down on my chest. We stayed that way for awhile… just talking… until all of a sudden she laughed a little, and asked if it was obvious… that she liked me too. We stayed up until about 8am with her just laying on my chest, with her arms wrapped around me.
Somewhere in there, the fact that she has a boyfriend came up. I can tell that she has been very cold to her boyfriend ever since I met her. When she reads his emails she mumbles stuff sarcastically like “Thats good for you…” etc… however, I can tell that she likes him regardless. I can’t really tell to what extent though. She got scared and started to wonder what the heck she was doing.
I work days and she works nights, so Tuesday and Wednesday we just talked on the phone for a few hours late at night… but then yesterday, she had a day off.
We spent the entire day together. We went to dinner, then to an arcade, then to a casino (not to gamble… just because it was nearby). We cuddled up with a quiet spot in the hotel lobby for awhile, watched the fountain show, then went back to her house again. We watched shows and then ended up the same way, with her laying on my chest.
Then, out of no where, she said “I’m sorry… for putting you in this situation…” it got a little awkward from there, because I couldn’t tell exactly what she was sorry for. My heart skipped a beat thinking the worst. She says she doesn’t want to face my ex(I don’t want to either…) but I tried to assure her thats not something she needs to worry about. I asked her what about her semi-boyfriend, and she said she just didn’t know what to do. She said something like “He hasn’t done anything wrong…”. I told her I didn’t want to rush or anything, to which she replied that she doesn’t either. She said that she probably shouldn’t let her feelings develop for me so much, as she squeezed my hand tighter and held onto me.
She is such a nice girl that I have the feeling she just doesn’t want to hurt him. She has dumped him once before, and he practically guilted her into getting back together with him.
She just called while I was writing this to tell me about something that happened just now, etc… saying she was going to work. I feel almost as if we are together… but not. She seemed a little disturbed on the phone t
